What I am about to tell you is going to change your whole life.
It is going to change the way you see the world.
It will change the way you feel about yourself and it will help you overcome your fears and your anxiety.
You will unleash your true inner self-confidence and stop giving a fuck about what other people think about you.
And it is really simple. It is a simple mindset-shift that you can undergo right now and all your fears and worries will go away.
You Are The Center Of Your Own Universe
You are the center of your own universe. And everybody else is the center of their own universe. This is the case for every human being out there.
What does that mean?
That means that nobody really gives a fuck about you. Everybody just thinks about themselves.
This may seem harsh at first, but at second glance, this knowledge is really freeing.
Once you realize, that nobody really gives a fuck about what you do, you become free to do whatever you want to do. You become free and stop worrying about every little detail and about the future.
Let me give you an example.
Remember your school days. Back then when everybody was terrified of giving presentations and public speaking.
One mess up and everybody laughs about you and you are the loser of the school, right?
Well not really. I mean think about it. How did you feel and what did you think when other people were giving presentations?
You didn’t really give a shit about anything they have said, did you? Most of the presentations were boring as hell anyway and you spent your time daydreaming and staring into space.
When the speaker messed up, said something stupid or embarrassing, you didn’t really give a fuck about it either. It just happened.
Maybe people laughed about it for a few seconds but then it was forgotten. You didn’t really give it a second thought and thought how dumb and stupid this person was.
No, you might have actually felt pity for the speaker because you know that you might be next and it could happen to you just the same.
But what about him? He probably thought about his slip up for the rest of the presentation and probably for the rest of the day afterward. It haunted him. How could he have messed up this badly. His life is over.
Do you see what I am trying to get at here? This guy beat himself up over something as unimportant as this, while everybody else didn’t even notice it or forgot it right after.
The same goes for you. If you hold a presentation and you mess up, the other people don’t really care about what happens or if you say some bullshit.
Even if you beat yourself up over it, the other people only think about themselves. What really matters isn’t how you say it, or if you did something stupid, it is all about your energy.
People are bored. They want to be entertained and captivated by your energy.
This is true for every area of your life. People are fucking bored and only think about themselves.
It doesn’t really matter what the fuck you say or do, it is how you say or do it.
That is what matters.
Create Your Own Universe
Once you realize, that everybody really only gives a fuck about themselves, you become free.
Your fear and anxiety leave you, you go out there and you crush that presentation.
You don’t really think about it, you just do and everything flows naturally. All of a sudden, people actually listen to you and are captivated by your presence. You have awoken your inner charisma.
You are the center of your own universe! So make this universe the best universe it can be. Make your life the best experience you can think of.
You are the center. You decide how you want to live your life. You decide how you feel, how confident you are, how you act, what you want to do, how you want your life to look like. You have the power about your feelings and thoughts.
So create the universe that you like!
The Cure To Anxiety and Outcome Dependence
No matter what you do this concept stays the same for every area of your life.
Think about the times you were out at night.
You might have seen some other dude, taking up his courage and walking up to a hot girl, trying to seduce her but he got blown off pretty quickly.
What did you think? “Oh shit, this guy is the biggest loser ever. I am going to tell all of my friends about his fuck up. This guys life is over. He is such a loser!”
Or did you think something like “Damn that dude just walked up to her, I wish I had the courage to do that too.”
If you did think anything at all, it probably wasn’t something like the first example.
Yet if you would see a hot girl and you wanted to talk to her, something like the first example would be stuck in your mind.
Oh no, what if anybody sees me getting blown off? My life will be over!
Fuck no. As you see, most people won’t even care about you. They don’t give a damn about you getting blown off by another girl. They probably won’t even notice.
People only care about themselves and their lives, their universe.
The Key To Happiness
Realize this and you will become free from all the worries, expectations and fears you put on yourself.
You will finally be able to live the life, you have always wanted to live and you will finally be able to be happy!
There is no better feeling than just living, doing what you want to do, without thinking about other peoples expectations and opinions about you all the time.
You realize that there is no need to be afraid of anything. This girl is just a small part of your universe and nothing important. And at the same time, you are just a small part of her universe and she will forget you in an instant.
That way you will build one of the biggest mindsets of all time, the mindset of outcome independence.
That means, that you don’t care, what will happen. Good or bad, life goes on and this is just a minor part of your universe.
This outcome independence will manifest itself in your aura. It will attract women and people of all kinds.
You will convey that you do not give a fuck about what other people think about you. You are just doing you and if somebody doesn’t accept that, they can go piss off. You won’t change for anybody.
The inner benefits that you will get by adopting this mindset far outweigh the outer benefits you will gain. This way of thinking is highly beneficial for your mental well-being.
As I said, there is no better feeling than just living your life fully present, enjoying every moment because you don’t waste your energy thinking about what other people think about you.
So never forget this thing. Always keep this realization in your mind. Think about it, whenever your anxiety or your doubts override you.
You are the center of your own universe!
Hey Dan!
The article is really spot on. Anxiety used to be a big problem for me as I was always concerned about “what others might think”. Then it hit me one day- others think nothing. NOTHING! They don’t care…they don’t have the time to think about me. Like you said, they don’t give a fuck. Literally!
I later discovered that I had narcissistic tendencies, but that’s another story.
I am very impressed by the depth of the article. You not only inform, but come from a place of sympathy, and that’s what sets it apart from the rest of the articles on the net with similar themes- they seem to be cold and talk down to you.
Needless to say, you have earned a subscriber, and a stalker.
Keep us informed, mate.
Hey Kumar! Thanks for checking out my blog and for the kind words. Really appreciate your feedback and glad you subscribed to the newsletter. Lots of new articles coming up!
I agree. Anxiety was something I had to overcome and realizing this simple concept really hit home with me. I’d like to hear your thoughts on the narcissistic tendencies. I feel like we are on the same page here because I used to have this big time.